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What is fundamental to our cause is overturning the single custody law. When that is accomplished, all else will follow. When foreigners final have legal joint custody over their children, the court system will find it impossible not to impose visitation rights and will be forced to charge mothers if necessary with kidnapping should they abscond with the children. It will open doors we can't imagine yet, but in order for the basic law to be overturned, we must first get the cooperation of the Japanese people themselves. If anyone knows of any Japanese (I'm bilingual and a permanent resident) involved in the movement, please send them my e-mail address:

Thank you
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joey25 (9 posts)
8/27/2008 10:34:31 AM
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The law requiring single parent custody in the case of divorce is 400 years old. It is a feudal law designed to keep the children bound to their paddies and to preserve aristocratic estates. In other words, THE LAW HAS NO PLACE WHATSOEVER IN MODERN SOCIETY. It is a given that it should be overturned and that it is in fact overturnable. It violates the human rights of both children and parents. It creates tyrants out of the parents who enjoy full custody. It makes a mockery out of parenthood, psychologically damages both children and parents, and prevents children from having the privilege of being raised by two parents.

I've read a lot of sad stories on these forums and God knows I have enough grief of my own. But we must go beyond our grief and try- try to change this law. Even now as I write this, I am looking for Japanese organizations. We can demonstrate and if we are to have any hope for change we must. We must get out of our own personal tragedies and fearlessly agitate against this law that so many world organizations have condemned. With the help of our Japanese friends we must march and collectively sue the Japanese government. While our stories here are touching and deserve compassion, the actions we have taken so far have not and will not change a thing.

Philip Harding
Free Our Children

FRIJ recommends you also visit crn japan, who are fighting international abduction to Japan and working to assure children in Japan of meaningful contact with both parents regardless of marital status